Dating violence in homosexual relationships
"I thought, 'Oh, he's just jealous; it's the drinking,' and I let it go. No drugs, but lots of drinking."The second time was worse.
"He was angry at something—I can't remember what—and I was laughing," said Chris.
Any attention that I didn't give to him—whether I gave it to friends, family, or other guys, even just other gay men who were my friends—he would get very upset if I hung out with them too much."David eventually forced Sam to open a joint bank account so that Sam couldn't "stockpile" any funds and move out.
"He pulled me by my hair, had me on my knees and had the butcher knife at my neck." Chris says he didn't react.
We must have broken up about 20 times." The final break-up happened when Monique landed several punches on La Tesha in front of the staff of Safe Space, an LGBT community center in Jamaica, Queens.***Chris, Sam, and La Tesha are smart people with educations, plans, and busy social lives.
They all identify as homosexual, and they all have had experiences with physically or psychologically abusive partners who left them financially, mentally, or emotionally damaged.
At the time, his sister was pregnant, and he wanted to live to see his niece. I put my hand on his, and we put the knife back in place together," said Chris, demonstrating by holding his two hands together.
That night, José locked their bedroom door for fear that Chris would escape and tell someone.