How to look quietly intimidating
When you have an intimidating personality, your presence might dampen the mood of an otherwise lively and participative meeting.People fall silent when you arrive, or they just seem unsettled.
When possible, prepare and rehearse what you’d like to say beforehand to avoid fumbling over your words or being silenced.
We’ve all known people who seem tough on the outside but have a big heart.
They are often professionally and socially successful, but there is an atmosphere of fear around them.
What stories are you telling yourself about this person? You may find that underneath their scary exterior, there’s a person. Recognize your similarities rather than focusing on your perceived differences.
What assumptions are you making about them and your relationship? Also, realize that even the most challenging people are struggling with their own insecurities (which may manifest as aggressiveness or insensitivity).